Counseling One Another

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Counseling One Another

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Please feel free to contact me through any of the following avenues. Read my bio here.

Paul Tautges
120 South St.
Plymouth, WI 53073
(920) 917-4020


  1. your link to “HELP! Want to Change” is down. Is the booklet still available?

    • Thanks, Tim. The link has been corrected. And the book IS available even though Amazon can’t seem to keep it in stock!

  2. Hi Mr. Taugtes, Do you have an article on 2 Cor. 6:14 with regards to marriage w/believer and an unbeliever?

  3. Thank you!!!

  4. I can’t begin to express to you how excited I was to come across your post, “37 Ways to Love One Another.” My husband and I applied the “one anothers” to our marriage and has transformed our family! Check out our blog
    This is a message that should be taught in all churches. I just ordered your book and I can’t wait to read it! May God continue to bless you and your family.

  5. I believe when God commanded us to love one another he gave us the “one anothers” to love one another with. I believe II John verse 6 confirms this. What do you think?

  6. Hi, I am a 32 year old felmale with BPD. It is a hopeless and helpless feeling/label to live with mostly because “the world” says there is no cure…But I am a Christian and know that “with God all things are possible” and that “He is faithful to finish the good work He has started in me.” I say those things in faith, not because I’m experiencing any relief yet…I am torn between clinical help. such as DBT(Dialectical Behavior Therapy) and trusting God. I feel that if I do this DBT I will be “doing so in my own strength” instead of relying on God to heal me but I need guidance, lots of it. I don’t want to hurt people anymore…it’s not fair to them nor is it God’s plan for me. I take absolute responsibilty for my actions and always feel complete remorse, even depression after and “episode.” And yes I have had a hard life but I’m done playing the victim. I have seen on several posts the term CBT or Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. Can someone please tell me the difference between CBT and DBT as far as therapy goes. And also from a christian standpoint, is it wrong to seek help that way?? I am torn but desperate to beat this thing! Please help…

  7. Hello Paul,

    I just got done reading your wonderful article regarding “suffering”. I thank you for sharing it. The reason I am writing to you is because I noticed that there was a comment left by Paul Schafer regarding the OT and NT. How the OT speaks on deliverance and the NT doesn’t seem to touch on that particular topic. If I may, the reason the NT doesn’t make note of “deliverance” is because Jesus Christ has already paid the debt of deliverance for us when He gave His life on Calvary’s cross. How many people pay off a debt once, just to continuously repay it over and over again?
    The whole purpose of us “suffering” is to acknowledge that Jesus Christ indeed paid our debt. And as long as we are suffering we are awarded more and more of Him. It’s almost like Jesus purchased a home for us that we couldn’t afford. He holds the deed and the only way it will ever become ours is us making payments to Him. It is only in our suffering that we are made perfect.

  8. Hi Paul,

    I’m just writing in regards to your sermon: — The verse Luke 22:31 has recently come up in one of my devotionals – and i’ve looked at some other commentaries on the verse – but it’s really been troubling me a lot lately and I’m just wondering what your thoughts are on why God might allow Satan to tempt Peter (or Christians in general) in the first place? I understand in the sermon and bible – it was necessary to build Peter’s faith, strength, character, & integrity, afterwards – but I just don’t understand the dynamics between God and Satan. I understand that God is most superior and obviously the creator – all-knowing etc. – but my trouble is that shouldn’t he want the best for his children? Weren’t there other ways he could have taught Peter about the same lesson he was trying to teach him other than allowing Satan to intervene? I am reminded in Job when he was tested and troubled… I just wrestle with the fact that God would allow his people to be tempted/troubled when they are trying to live a life for God… (yes I’m probably personalizing this as I’ve been struggling with things in our life and wondering why God would let them happen – realizing we all sin and fall short and I know he has a purpose for it, it just seems almost uncharacteristic of God – that he would let the people who love him and live for him to suffer/ be tempted by the devil?) Writing is not always a good way to express this – I’m definitely not suggesting God is out to ‘get us’ in any way and know some suffering produces good things eventually, I just want to know if there’s any other verses that support why God might allow satan to ‘sift Peter like wheat’… ? Does this suggest that the Devil has some power over Christ / God? Through my life I’ve always believed God is the alpha and omega – the creator and designed our lives for purpose etc. I’m just questioning the reasoning behind Jesus would allow Satan to intervene. I’d love to hear further spiritual insight on this topic.. or if it remains one of those questions we’ll get to ask God when we meet him again… Thanks again for your time and I look forward to reading more. :)

  9. Thank-you for your article, “Refuse to be Crippled by Regret”. It has been a great help and encouragement to me.

  10. Hi Paul,
    I was just reading on your web-sight, your structure of a counseling session and my question is; can these steps be found in any of your books? If so, which one and what page(s)?

    • Nadine, No, I don’t address this in any of my books. My books focus on the biblical philosophy and theology that undergirds the ministry of counseling.

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