Your Child Doesn’t Have to Fit In to Belong (Stephanie Hubach)

by Paul Tautges | September 17, 2021 8:40 am

I’m really excited about a new 31-day devotional for parents of kids with disabilities, from P&R Publishing, written by Stephanie Hubach. Today’s post is Day 22.

For as in one body we have many members, and the members do not all have the same function, so we, though many, are one body in Christ, and individually members one of another. Having gifts that differ according to the grace given to us, let us use them.

Rom. 12:4-6

In disability circles, there is a familiar meme about autism that says, “The problem with trying to fit a square peg into a round hole is not so much the amount of time and effort and frustration of forcing the fit, but that you end up damaging the peg.” Have you ever sensed that your child has been injured—emotionally, psychologically, or spiritually—by efforts to make
him or her fit in? Rather than adapting the environment, have others pressured your child to change in order to belong?

Parents of children who have disabilities are always looking for places where their children can fit in or for ways they can help them to adapt to settings that are unprepared for their presence. Belonging in the human community can feel like an elusive goal.

Part of the wonderful beauty of the fact that God is with us—in our union with Christ—is that the parts of the body of Christ do not have to fit in to belong. By definition, when we are in Christ—when we are connected to our Savior and thereby also to his people—we already do belong. Belonging is our God­ given privilege as part of the family of God. We collectively grow as Christians by learning to genuinely value every part of the body of Christ in such a way that positional belonging is felt.

Though it is painful for our children (and for us) when belong­ing is not felt or experienced as fully as it could be, we should take heart. In our union with Christ, every one of us already belongs—to him and to his people. It is a done deal. Let’s ask God for the grace and patience to model for the church what that belonging looks like in its fullness.

Pre-order the 31-day devotional, Parenting & Disabilities[1], from Stephanie Hubach.

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