Counseling One Another

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Counseling One Another

37 Ways to Love One Another

A local church is not built by one man, or even a few men, but by every believer being actively involved in ministry through evangelizing the lost people in their lives and serving their fellow Christians. A quick glance at the practice of the New Testament church reveals that they thought very little about programs and very much about relationships.

Consider the disciple-making that would naturally take place in the life of a local church if every believer would practice the loving, one-another ministry that the early churches first read about in the instructions they received from the apostles:

  1. Be devoted to one another (Rom. 12:10).
  2. Give preference to one another (Rom. 12:10).
  3. Be of the same mind toward one another (Rom. 12:16).
  4. Accept one another by withholding judgment (Rom. 14:1).
  5. Accept one another by showing deference (Rom. 14:1–5; 15:7).
  6. Esteem [highly regard] one another in love (Rom. 14:5; Phil. 2:3).
  7. Build up one another (Rom. 14:19; 1 Thes. 5:11).
  8. Counsel one another (Rom. 15:14).
  9. Serve one another by showing deference in matters of liberty (Gal. 5:13).
  10. Bear one another’s sin burdens (Gal. 6:2).
  11. Be gentle with one another (Eph. 4:2).
  12. Be kind to one another so as to preserve unity (Eph. 4:32).
  13. Speak truth to one another (Eph. 4:25; Col 3:9).
  14. Submit to one another (Eph. 5:21).
  15. Show compassion to one another (Col. 3:12).
  16. Bear with the inherent sinfulness of one another (Col. 3:13).
  17. Forgive one another (Col. 3:13).
  18. Use Spirit-filled, Word-saturated music to teach and admonish one another (Col. 3:16; Eph. 5:19).
  19. Comfort one another with the hope of Christ’s return (1 Thes. 4:18).
  20. Encourage one another (1 Thes. 5:11).
  21. Live in peace with one another (1 Thes. 5:13).
  22. Seek good for one another (1 Thes. 5:15).
  23. Encourage one another to forsake unbelief and hardness of heart (Heb. 3:13).
  24. Stimulate one another to spiritual growth (Heb. 10:24).
  25. Encourage one another by faithful participation in your local church (Heb. 10:25).
  26. Confess sins to one another (James 5:16).
  27. Pray for one another’s spiritual and physical healing (James 5:16).
  28. Be long-suffering and patient toward one another (1 Peter 4:8; Eph. 4:2).
  29. Be hospitable to one another without complaint (1 Peter 4:9).
  30. Serve one another (1 Peter 4:10; Gal. 5:13).
  31. Act in humility toward one another (1 Peter 5:5).
  32. Show holy affection to one another (1 Peter 5:14).
  33. Participate in the holy walk with one another (1 John 1:7).
  34. Refuse to become resentful toward one another (1 John 3:11–12).
  35. Give sacrificially to meet one another’s needs (1 John 3:16–17).
  36. Fight fear together by growing in love (1 John 4:18).
  37. Walk in truth together (1 John 3:18; 2 John 1:5).

The Christian life is all about relationships. It’s God’s design for our personal growth, which then translates into church growth—the real kind. Loving one another is a powerful evangelistic tool, as Jesus says: “By this all men will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another” (John 13:35).

[The above list makes a great personal Bible study or the basis for small group discussion.]

Recommended Resource: Counseling One Another: A Theology of Inter-Personal Discipleship

**This article was originally posted August, 17, 2011.

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  1. I was aware of many of the “one another” passages, but appreciate how you have expanded this. Yes, a great Bible study.

  2. Mr. Tautges,
    My husband found this link and shared it with me because I just wrote and published a book called ONE ANOTHERNESS. I am a doctoral student at SWBTS and we were challenged for the last two years to really ponder the one another verses. This past semester each student had to prepare something related to his or her ministry using the one another verses. I wrote a devotional. I am not a person who markets my material or anything like that because I don’t care for it. I know GOD will do what HE wills with HIS children’s work. So forgive if this sounds like I am marketing. Please know it is not my intent. After reading Dr. Larry Crabb’s, 66 LOVE LETTERS and Sarah Young’s, JESUS CALLING and how these two authors use the voice of GOD or Jesus to promote a dialogue with the reader instead of dialogue, I chose to write a devotional in the voiceo of GOD telling why each one another is important in our lives. It is very intimate, quite convicting, and very thought provoking. I can only pray it will change lives. The use of GOD’s voice is not to say that what is written in the WORD is not sufficient. The WORD IS SUFFICIENT and HE IS SUFFICIENT! The goal was get the reader into a more intimate conversation with the Father. Anyhow, if you are interested in taking a look. Here is the link. Thank you for your post! It is right on! Have a blessed day. And humbly, Thank you for listening. Tara Rye

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  5. Good stuff Paul! I plan to link it to a piece I wrote “How can a Church experience community?” Thanks and keep up the good work!

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  10. May God help us to put these message into practice, not within the church but to reach outside world for Jesus. Bless u forever.

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  13. John 3:16 let us understand that love us,that is why god sent his son to die for me and you to have live.

  14. One another”is a very important principle to be cared for.I realise that if there’s no “one another”it means there iis selfishness…

  15. Wow, this is great. A new dimension of loving Christ. Thanks for guiding me.