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Counseling One Another

May 18, 2013
by Paul Tautges
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Jesus: Healer of Body and Soul

Preaching through the Gospel of Luke is proving to be of much personal benefit to me and to our church. I chose the account of Luke, the physician and historian, because he presents Jesus in the fullness of His humanity—as the compassionate Son of Man who knows our weaknesses and carries our sorrows.

In preparation for preaching tomorrow, I’ve been studying Luke 4:38-44 this week—the account of Jesus’ healing of Peter’s mother-in-law and many whom the crowds brought to Him, as well as casting out many more demons. Though Jesus was relentless to maintain the priority of preaching; the compassionate, personal care of our Savior toward those in suffering is obvious. The following words, from Phillip Graham Ryken’s commentary, were a wonderful reminder of this personal care of our Great Physician. This lengthy quotation is Ryken’s answer to the common question, “Does Jesus still have healing power today?”

Since Jesus has healing authority, we should pray in his name whenever we are sick. But we need to recognize that God often chooses not to heal us. Some day “there will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain” (Rev. 21:4 NIV). But we are still living in a fallen world, where disability and disease are part of God’s curse against sin. Eventually all our prayers for healing will be answered, but this will not happen until Jesus comes again. Furthermore, God often uses our physical difficulties to do his gracious work in our lives. The life of the Christian follows the pattern of the life of Christ, in which suffering is the road to glory.

Among other things, this means that we can never make our health the test of God’s love. Often Jesus has a work of healing to do in us that goes much deeper than our bodies. In his commentary on these verses, Michael Wilcock imagines what Jesus might say to us when he chooses not to answer our prayers for healing. Perhaps he would say something like this: “I could of course give you immediate relief; but I would rather take the opportunity to do something more far-reaching, which will be to your greater benefit in the long run. You will find it more protracted and perhaps more painful, and you may not understand what I am doing, because I may be treating disorders of which you yourself are unaware.” And what would Jesus do then? Wilcock says he would “set to work to deal with the needs of the whole person, rather than with the obvious need only. He may aim at a calming of spirit, or a strengthening of courage, or a clarifying of vision, as more important objectives than what we would call healing. Indeed the latter may not be experienced at all in this life, but only at the final ‘saving and raising’ of the sick, when their mortal nature puts on immortality.”

In his healing work as our Great Physician, Jesus is concerned for the whole person—body and soul. Often he uses the hurts of the body to bring healing to the soul, much the way a doctor uses deadly chemotherapy to kill a cancer. Sometimes we wish that God would just hurry up and heal us. If he doesn’t, it is not because he doesn’t love us, but because he is working a better plan. In the meantime, we need to trust him to do his total work in our lives.

As you prepare your heart for the Lord’s Day worship in your local church tomorrow, consider Jesus, the compassionate and gracious Savior who knows your deepest needs—both body and soul.

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May 17, 2013
by Paul Tautges
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Exposing the Sin of Overeating

“God declares overeating to be a sin: ‘For the heavy drinker and the glutton will come to poverty’ (Proverbs 23:21). There are several definitions of sin in the Bible: ‘the devising of folly is sin’ (Proverbs 24:9). ‘Whatever is not from faith is sin’ (Romans 14:23), ‘therefore, to one who knows the right thing to do and does not do it, to him it is sin’ (James 4:17), ‘all unrighteousness is sin’ (1 John 5:17). ‘Sin is lawlessness’ (1 John 3:4). These descriptions view sin as the act of the will. Sin is choosing to act in opposition to God’s Word.”

So begins the second chapter of biblical counselor Shannon McCoy’s very helpful mini-book HELP! I’m a Slave to Food. She continues:

Perhaps you don’t believe that overeating is a sin. Many of us have been brainwashed by magazine articles, television talk shows, and reality shows that tell us that food is the problem: you are simply eating the wrong things in the wrong way. Often even the Christian perspective views overeating as a diet problem rather than a sin problem. On the other hand, you may know that overeating is a sin, but it does not seem serious because it is often treated as one of those ‘little sins’ that are acceptable in the church. You don’t hear sermons or read books on the sin of overeating. Your focus is more on getting treatment for your problem of overeating than facing up to your personal responsibility of repentance and obedience. According to the above descriptions of sin, overeating is of folly, not of faith. It is failing to do the right thing. It is unrighteousness and lawlessness. The following is a testimony from someone who struggled with overeating: “My eating was out of control. I ate solely to satisfy whatever craving I was having at the time. As a result, my health was suffering and I was not honoring God with my life and body He had given me. I was for the first time confronted with the fact that the way that I was eating was sinful. I knew that my eating was ‘not good,’ but I never considered that my eating was sin.”

In her mini-book, Shannon transparently identifies with her readers by acknowledging that overeating once dominated her life. She then shares the life-changing counsel from the Scriptures, which changed her life, beginning with admitting the seriousness of her sin problem.

Overeating Dominates Your Life When…

“OvereaHelp Im a slave to food - small email sizeting is a life-dominating sin, and it has a strong influence over your life. It affects your mind, your body, your spirit, your heart, your emotions, your relationships, and even your finances. The sin of overeating is practiced repeatedly so that it becomes a habitual lifestyle and almost second nature, a continuous action that controls your life…let’s look at a few characteristics of the life-dominating sin of overeating.

  1. You Have Repeatedly Tried to Stop. “You’ve tried every diet known to man, but failed to stop habitually overeating. The root of your problem is that you are not taking this sin seriously.”
  2. You Blame Others or Circumstances for Your Failure. “The world may teach you to blame your mother for your sinful eating habits because, when you were a child, she forced you to ‘clean your plate’ at every meal. You may blame it on your genetic makeup…you may blame your diet plan. You say, ‘It did not work for me. It is too strict.’ You may even blame your sin on God because he will not change your circumstances, your cravings, and so on. You completely disregard what the apostle Paul says in Romans 14:12: ‘So then each one of us will give an account of himself to God.’”
  3. You Deny that Overeating Is a Sin. “You believe what the world tells you about your overeating problem. You believe that your problem is really low self-esteem, or that you actually have a disease. You refuse to accept that your actions are sinful and do not glorify God. You call it a weakness instead of a sin.”
  4. You Convince Yourself that You are not Enslaved to Overeating and ‘Can Stop at Any Time.“You must admit that you are in bondage to the sin of overeating. Jesus teaches, everyone who commits sin is the slave of sin (John 8:34). You believe that you are in control of your eating habits every time you start a new diet plan or workout program. You are deceived into believing that this plan will deliver you. a life-dominating sin requires the work of the Holy Spirit in order for it to be put to death in the believer.”
  5. Any Pleasure from Overeating Is Short-lived, while the Harm Is Considerable and Long-Term. “You feel as though you have no control over your cravings. You give in to the temptation to eat repeatedly. You see your body weight increasing and feel your clothes tightening. You get depressed because you don’t like the way you look. Your blood pressure is getting dangerously high, and your knees hurt when you try to climb the stairs to your apartment. Nevertheless, you find yourself stuffing your face again with massive amounts of food and not receiving the relief you are seeking.”
  6. You Overeat when No One Is Watching. “When overeating controls you, you will seek to hide your outward behavior by doing it in secret….Hiding your sin will only lead you into deeper bondage. You must realize that there is power in confession. James 5:16 states, ‘Therefore, confess your sins to one another, and pray for one another so that you may be healed. The effective prayer of a righteous man can accomplish much.’”
  7. You Know that Overeating Obscures the Testimony of Jesus Christ in Your Life and Is a Stumbling Block to Others. “To commit sin and know that it is damaging the testimony of Jesus Christ can lead you more deeply into slavery. You must know that your sinful actions are affecting everyone around you: your husband, children, coworkers, unsaved relatives, and friends. You cannot admonish and encourage others in their walk with Christ when you are purposefully committing sin in their presence. They see your helpless struggle with overeating and may deny the power of Christ in their own lives.”
  8. You Know that God’s Word Tells You to Stop Sinning, and that God Can Release You from this Bondage. “Pride and rebellion are at the heart of your problem. Perhaps you have been a Christian for a long time and you know that God is not pleased with your gluttonous behavior. But you continue to ignore God’s command to glorify him when you eat (1 Corinthians 10:31). You refuse to trust in God’s faithfulness and accept his way of escape (1 Corinthians 10:13).”
  9. You Realize that Your Deeds (thoughts, words, actions) do not Conform to the Character of Christ. “Your conscience accuses you of your sin. Your behavior doesn’t conform to the character of Christ. Without telling a bold-faced lie, you cannot say that your gluttonous behavior is Christlike. You know in your heart that your behavior is not pleasing to the Lord. You know that your desire is to please yourself.”

Overeating Is Not an Addiction

Some overeaters label themselves “food addicts,” believing they are addicted to food. However, addiction is not a biblical term. The world uses this terminology to describe the behavior of someone who is controlled by a substance. The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines addiction in this way: “To devote or surrender (oneself) to something habitually or obsessively.” But the danger in labeling overeating as “addiction” is that it undermines the personal conviction of sin. If the problem is not sin, then you will look for solutions in a system of theories, not in the person of Jesus Christ.

Overeating Is Idolatry

The biblical term for “addiction” is “idolatry.” The sin of overeating is idolatry. Idolatry is worship and devotion to creation rather than worship and devotion to the Creator God. You worship your stomach and appetites by indulging in food. You desire the created food more than your Creator. The problem is not necessarily the food you consume; it is the worship of your heart. Before you can be set free [from the sin of gluttony], you must acknowledge your idol, denounce it, repent, and give your heart and devotion to him. Your greatest hope is in turning from your false gods and surrendering your life to Jesus, who is able to forgive your sins and free you from the sin of overeating.

God’s Grace Empowers Us to Change

Romans 6:12-14 both exhorts us to repent of the sin of overeating and gives us hope on God’s power to change us. “Therefore do not let sin reign in your mortal body so that you obey its lusts, and do not go on presenting the members of your body to sin as instruments of unrighteousness; but present yourselves to God as those alive from the dead, and your members as instruments of righteousness to God. For sin shall not be master over you, for you are not under law but under grace.”

In the remainder of her mini-book, McCoy teaches us how to conquer the sin of overeating by God’s gracious empowerment for disciplined living.

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May 15, 2013
by Paul Tautges
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Resting in “It Is Finished”

If you are a regular reader of this blog then you may have noticed one of many threads that have frequently run through my posts this past year; that is, spiritual rest comes from focusing on our identity in Christ. As one who fights an ongoing battle against anxiety, negative thinking, and depressive tendencies; the Lord has been teaching me the importance of deliberately setting my mind on things that are true, honorable, right, pure, lovely, of good reputation, excellent, and worthy of praise” (Philippians 4:8). “Importance” is perhaps even too weak. For me, deliberately thinking on what God says about who I am in Christ is spiritual oxygen. My soul simply cannot survive without it.

However, there is another element to Christ that I must deliberately meditate upon, which helps me in the daily war against performance-driven Christian living. This focal point for meditation is the finished work of Jesus on the cross for the full accomplishment of my redemption. Every aspect of my salvation is dependent upon what the Lord Jesus did on my behalf as He endured the Father’s wrath against my sin. It is all of grace. When I deliberately think upon this truth then I will be confidently living in the acceptance that is already mine in Jesus, rather than anxiously striving after an imaginary acceptance that seems to elude my heart of unbelief.

This morning, I got to thinking about this priority again while reading another chapter in Encouragement for Today’s Pastors: Help from the Puritans, by Joel Beeke and Terry Slachter. Here, while affirming the practical nature of Puritan preaching, the authors provide illustration from one of John Flavel’s sermons on the cross, specifically Jesus’ declaration that “It is finished” (John 19:30). After Flavel preached the doctrine derived from the text, the authors point out that the other half of the sermon then “offers these practical inferences drawn from the doctrine.” There are six mentioned.

  1. Comfort: believers need not fear condemnation for all the imperfections of our works for God;
  2. Warning: trusting anything besides Christ for our justification is dangerous to us and dishonoring to Christ;
  3. Hope: if Christ finished His work for us, then He will finish His work in us;
  4. Exultation: rejoice in this finished work and the way of justification by faith in Christ alone;
  5. Imitation: if Christ worked, then all Christians must labor to glorify God by hard work; and
  6. Exhortation: strive to finish the work God gives you before death closes your life.

When we intentionally focus on the finished work of Jesus on our behalf then we enter the realm of spiritual rest that God intended for us. Truly, Jesus is our Sabbath. Let us choose to enter His rest (Hebrews 4:1-11).

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May 13, 2013
by Paul Tautges
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Carnival Mirrors Pastors Are Prone to Look Into

If you are a regular reader of this blog then you have already read several posts making mention of Paul Tripp’s highly-diagnostic book for pastors, seminarians, and all those who have given their lives to the gospel ministry. Today’s post continues that pattern. It is directed at us, as pastors, but certainly contains wisdom for every believer to consider.Carnival mirrors

Part Two of Dangerous Calling: Confronting the Unique Challenges of Pastoral Ministry provides another heart-searching opportunity for self-counsel. Its focus is on the ease at which we are prone to lose our awe of God by forgetting who He is. As a result, we begin to think of ourselves more highly than we ought to think (Romans 12:3), and forget who we are, resulting in the development of distorted views of ourselves. Tripp writes, “we are all susceptible to having our definition of ourselves formed by the carnival mirrors that are in every ministry person’s life. Remember, no mirror that you look into to know yourself will ever show you with the clarity and accuracy of the mirror of the Word of God.” The author then suggests four “carnival mirrors” that we as pastors tend to look into.

  1. THE MIRROR OF MINISTRY KNOWLEDGE: “Biblical knowledge is a vital, essential, and irreplaceable thing; but it must not be confused with true faith or personal spiritual maturity. Faith is deeply more than what you do with your brain. Knowledge is an aspect of faith, but it doesn’t define faith. Ultimately, faith is an investment of the heart that leads to a radically new way of living your life. Spiritual maturity is more than maturity of knowledge. You can actually be mature in your understanding of God’s sovereignty but live a life of fear, because in your immaturity you have attached your security more to your control than to God’s wise rule.”
  2. THE MIRROR OF MINISTRY EXPERIENCE: Here Tripp means “that pastors tend to go through good and bad seasons of ministry. So all of this experience makes you feel that you’re mature; but it can be a dangerous and distorted mirror to look into….If all that was needed to form maturity was a certain amount of experience, not only would there be many more mature people, but Jesus would not have had to come. Experience will teach you some things, but it simply has no power to make you holy.”
  3. THE MIRROR OF MINISTRY SUCCESS: “If our human ministry efforts are not propelled by God’s powerful grace and applied by the Holy Spirit, they will be for nothing. It is Christ and Christ alone who builds his church. This is humbling stuff because it requires us to admit that we have no power whatsoever to change anyone…So ministry success always says more about the Lord we serve than it does about us.”
  4. THE MIRROR OF MINISTRY CELEBRITY: “The people who are exposed only to your public ministry persona, your books or Internet blogs, and your voice when it is in a conference or on a DVD are functionally incapable of giving you an accurate view of yourself. You must take their congratulatory words as well mean but lacking in accuracy and, therefore, spiritual helpfulness.”

Tripp concludes with this warning to us: “Pastor, do you examine yourself daily by humbly placing yourself before the one mirror you can trust, the mirror of the Word of God? Or have you fallen into the habit of looking into carnival mirrors that will only ever give you a misshapen view of where you are in your personal spiritual journey?”

All of this reminds me of Paul’s ministry conclusion in 1 Corinthians 15:10, “But by the grace of God I am what I am, and his grace toward me was not in vain. On the contrary, I worked harder than any of them, though it was not I, but the grace of God that is with me.”

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May 9, 2013
by Paul Tautges
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Half-Full

Some of us are more prone to negative thinking patterns than others and, therefore, must constantly discipline ourselves to think on positive things that exalt and glorify God. So when a sister in Christ in our church recently shared what the Lord is teaching her in this area of her Christian life, I was encouraged to again be more deliberate to “think on these things” (Phil 4:8). She graciously gave me permission to share her poem with you.

Lord, help me as I face each day
With trials great and small,
For discouragement comes easy,
I often stumble and I fall.

For as I trod this beaten path,
It seems around each bend
Is one who wishes to destroy
And bring me to my end.

When I think on things untrue,
Not honorable, pure, or right;
I only please the evil one,
I become my enemy’s delight.

Lord, break me from this vicious cycle.
Turn my downward thoughts to Thee.
Lift up my head and fix my gaze
On YOU, not selfish me!

Help me learn from every trial;
Lord, teachable may I be!
Forsaking all my sin and pride,
Knowing YOU more intimately.

May all I do and think and say
Be excellent and worthy of praise,
My focus on You alone my God
Through all life’s different days.

Help me to see Your goodness, Lord,
For what You’re doing and what You’ve done.
For all is sovereignly ordained,
Every day, yes, every one!

So as I trudge this rough terrain,
May I praise Thee and be thankful.
For I realize my cup is not half-empty,
Now I see it as half-full!

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May 8, 2013
by Paul Tautges
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Slaying Four Monsters of the Sinful Heart

The Puritans will be forever-famous for their soul-work, their application of the truths of Scripture to all of life, but especially to the issues of the heart. This faithful, pastoral work was the result of a conviction that all theology, when properly understood, becomes practical theology. That is the biggest reason why I love the Puritans. Through reading their works, I am continually blessed, nurtured, strengthened, rebuked, and directed back to the glory of our sufficient Savior.

This morning, after spending some time looking for attributes of God in the Psalms, I again picked up Encouragement for Today’s Pastors: Help from the Puritans, by Joel Beeke and Terry Slachter. Chapter 5 is entitled “Submission to God’s Will” and is excellent. The authors draw from the book of Job, demonstrating the submissive heart of this great man of God.

The following quote is especially helpful as it includes 4 self-counseling questions for our times of sorrow and loss.

“The Lord gave us everything. Job said later, ‘Shall we receive good at the hand of God, and shall we not receive evil?’ (Job 2:10). So respond to trials and tragedies by remembering God’s generosity in everything He has given you. Faith in God’s sovereignty helps us to submit to God. According to Caryl, faith is a sword that can slay four monsters of the sinful heart: discontent, envy, pride, and contempt. So in times of loss or sorrow, ask yourself the following questions:

  1. Are you discontent, feeling you have too little? Submit to God, knowing that He gives you your portion with a Father’s love. Is your Father not wise?
  2. Do you envy others for having more than you? “The Lord gave.” Doesn’t He have the right to do as He pleases with His possessions? Does God have to ask for your permission? Is it wrong for God to show grace to someone other than you?
  3. Are you proud because you are abundantly blessed? All good things are gifts from God, but if you obtained your riches by dishonest or violent means, they are the devil’s gifts that will be cursed by God.
  4. Do you look with contempt on those who have less than you do? “The Lord gave,” so He could as easily have given them more than you, for He gives freely.”

Though this book is written specifically for pastors it is filled with wisdom for all of us. If you are interested in getting a copy for yourself, or your pastor, it is available in softcover or e-book from Reformation Heritage Books.

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May 7, 2013
by Paul Tautges
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A Defense against Pastoral Burnout

Plurality of shepherds in a local congregation is the model of leadership we find in the New Testament church, which is a model first established in the Old Testament. Just as Jethro made it clear to Moses that solo shepherding of the people of God was “not good” then, so it is not good now. Jethro’s reasons are just as pertinent today as they were then: “You will surely wear out, both yourself and these people who are with you, for the task is too heavy for you; you cannot do it alone” (Exodus 18:18). Without a plurality of shepherds, both the teaching pastor and the people suffer and do not experience the best the Lord has for them. Certainly there are times when solo shepherding may be the only option, but it should be viewed as temporary and men should be being intentionally discipled toward leadership qualification, roles, and responsibilities.

Our elders recently read Timothy Witmer’s exceptional book, The Shepherd Leader: Achieving Effective Shepherding in Your Church, and spent many hours discussing its implementation recommendations at an all-day elders’ retreat. We are really excited about the intentional shared-shepherding strategy we are embarking upon!

Since pastoral burnout is a widespread problem in the Western church, as well as a current topic of discussion among many, I thought I’d pass on the following portion from Witmer’s book, which reminds us that shared shepherding is one practical defense against pastoral burnout.

One of the practical outcomes of the identification of those who give themselves to preaching and teaching is that these individuals have often become viewed as primus inter pares—first among equals. This may have practical benefits in terms of providing initiative and direction in the local church. However, we must not lose sight of the fact that the biblical picture of leadership is ‘team’ leadership. All elders, including teaching elders (pastors), are called to shepherd the flock, but not all elders have the gift of teaching, though they should be apt to teach.

The point of this discussion isn’t who should or should not be compensated for their ministry but to focus on the fact that all who are called to be elders are called to the sheep-intensive work of shepherding. They are called to exercise their leadership together for the benefit of the flock. In many cases, probably because he is the one receiving the paycheck, the work of shepherding the people of God has fallen exclusively to the teaching elder or pastor. He is the one who visits the people. He is the one to whom people look for counsel. He is the one who is viewed as the ‘shepherd’ of the local congregation. However, given what we have seen about the centrality of the work of shepherding to those who are called to be elders, this makes no sense! How is the teaching elder supposed to have the time to give careful attention to the preaching and teaching ministry of the Word if he is charged with shepherding the entire flock as well? No, the biblical picture is of a shared responsibility among all of the elders for shepherding the flock. If anything, the teaching elder should have less responsibility in some shepherding functions so as to have sufficient time to carry out his responsibilities in preaching and teaching the flock.

We look at the plethora of reports that come out year after year about pastoral burnout and the alarming number of clergy leaving their churches or leaving the ministry altogether. Might not one of the contributing factors be that they are not receiving the help they need in shepherding the flock prescribed in the Scriptures? Not only will our churches be healthier, but the work of the pastor will also be more manageable if all elders take seriously the work that Christ has called them to do in sharing the responsibility to shepherd the flock.

Our elders were thrilled with this book. It reinforced what we already believed in principle, but have found so hard to put into practice. So we are really thankful for the really practical counsel we received that we will begin to implement immediately in the strength and grace of our patient Lord.

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May 7, 2013
by Paul Tautges
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In Much the Best Life Faileth…

Here is Psalm 130 put into the form of a hymn by Martin Luther. The actual hymn title is “From the Depths of Woe,” but I have titled this post after what I think is one of the most powerful phrases reminding us that we live and breathe, as believers in Christ, by His continued grace and mercy alone.

1. From the depths of woe I raise to Thee
The voice of lamentation;
Lord, turn a gracious ear to me
And hear my supplication;
If Thou iniquities dost mark,
Our secret sins and misdeeds dark,

O who shall stand before Thee?
(Who shall stand before Thee?)
O who shall stand before Thee?
(Who shall stand before Thee?)

2. To wash away the crimson stain,
Grace, grace alone availeth;
Our works, alas! Are all in vain;
In much the best life faileth;
No man can glory in Thy sight,
All must alike confess Thy might,

And live alone by mercy
(Live alone by mercy)
And live alone by mercy
(Live alone by mercy)

3. Therefore my trust is in the Lord,
And not in mine own merit;
On Him my soul shall rest, His word
Upholds my fainting spirit;
His promised mercy is my fort,
My comfort and my sweet support;

I wait for it with patience
(Wait for it with patience)
I wait for it with patience
(Wait for it with patience)

4. What though I wait the live-long night,
And ’til the dawn appeareth,
My heart still trusteth in His might;
It doubteth not nor feareth;
Do thus, O ye of Israel’s seed,
Ye of the Spirit born indeed;

And wait ’til God appeareth
(Wait ’til God appeareth)
And wait ’til God appeareth
(Wait ’til God appeareth)

5. Though great our sins and sore our woes
His grace much more aboundeth;
His helping love no limit knows,
Our upmost need it soundeth.
Our Shepherd good and true is He,
Who will at last His Israel free

From all their sin and sorrow
(All their sin and sorrow)
From all their sin and sorrow
(All their sin and sorrow)

©1997 Christopher Miner Music.

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May 3, 2013
by Paul Tautges
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Lessons Learned from the Dark Valley of Depression

Yesterday’s post, The Mind, Body, and Medications, concluded with mention of the experience of Bob Somerville whose lengthy testimony concludes Dr. Laura Hendrickson’s chapter in the new book Christ-Centered Biblical Counseling. Dr. Somerville is a NANC-certified biblical counselor and professor at the Master’s College in Santa Clarita, California. In this gutsy testimony, Bob shares how the grace of God brought him through a deep, dark, and unexpected encounter with depression.

In today’s post, I ask you to listen to Bob as he shares the lessons that God taught to him as a result of his time in the valley. But first, here are two quick bullet point lists of the external factors that contributed to the onset of depression, as well as the spiritual disciplines that Bob sought to maintain while in the fog of depression.

‘Life Factors’ that Contributed to the Onset of Depression

  • Excruciating back pain following his return from teaching overseas, making it difficult to walk.
  • Emotional drain from intensive counseling of a person in crisis
  • Full teaching load at college
  • Local church ministry
  • Back surgery to repair a herniated disc, which re-herniated, leaving him on his back for two months
  • Loss of 50 pounds and all muscle mass
  • Heavy pain medication plus medication for insomnia
  • The resulting inability to teach and preach

Disciplines that Continued while in the Valley of Despair

  • Daily time in the Word
  • Reading many books on the cross, the gospel, and hope in Christ
  • Helped by Ed Welch’s book, A Stubborn Darkness
  • Sought counsel from a biblical counselor
  • Encouragement of a faithful wife who hardly left his side for months

Engulfed by Darkness - “…but still the depression engulfed me to the point that I become nonfunctional. I had no feelings whatsoever, even of being saved—which was the worst feeling of all, not being able to sense God’s saving grace. I had constant thoughts of suicide. Everything was black and hopeless. I truly believed I would never preach or teach again.”

“The depression became so severe that I was taken to the hospital completely out of touch with reality. After receiving a combination of psychotropic drugs in the emergency room that morning, it appeared by that afternoon that I had come back to normalcy. However, within a few days the effect wore off and there was need for further medication. We sought counsel from a respected biblical counselor/doctor, who advised us that medicines were in order. My colleagues concurred. They saw that my condition was not the result of sin that had had [sic] sent me into a downward spiral, as Job’s comforters had assumed of him, but a matter of response to the pain medication and the impact of what had transpired physically yet was also exacerbated by what was going on with me emotionally. Reluctantly I took the medicine for a six-month period, along with seeking to learn and grow spiritually from the situation. The medicine helped stabilize me so that I could think rationally and apply biblical principles to my situation.”

6 LESSONS LEARNED FROM THE DARKNESS

  1. Deeper Empathy for those who Battle Depression: “My experience has given me a much deeper empathy and understanding for those who suffer in this way than I ever had before.”
  2. Recovery Is Sometimes Slow and Gradual: “While the physical issues—the back problem and the level of serotonin in the brain—were being addressed through physical therapy, rest, and the antidepressant medications, the issues of the soul were being addressed with continued biblical counseling and pursuing God through His Word, biblically based books, and prayer. Our family was very supportive, as well as our church family, ministering to us with calls, cards, meals, and prayers. My recovery was a gradual process that took place over a period of six grueling months.”
  3. Idols of the Heart—Previously Hidden—were Exposed: “I came to the realization that desiring comfort and to be in control were things I had idolized and needed to confess as sin. Suffering was part of God’s plan to produce the holiness that He was seeking to work out in my life….”
  4. Growth in Humility and Awe: “I grew in my awe of the unsearchableness of our humanness. It humbled me to know that I wasn’t in control of what was going on in my mind and emotions and that I had to trust in God’s good purposes in them, knowing that He would see my through those issues that were out of my control, and that He would do so partly through a medical means.”
  5. Greater Dependence upon Grace: “I needed to seek only Him and rest in what He has accomplished through His sacrificial death, resurrection, and intercession on my behalf. My entire salvation and sanctification is solely dependent on His grace.”
  6. Joy Comes in the Morning, after Mourning. “What praise I offered to God for His amazing grace when I was finally able to go back to teaching and preaching again! My emotions have returned and I have an irrepressible joy over my Savior and a story that I can’t keep quiet about.”

It is that final sentence from Bob that convinced me that I should write this unplanned sequel to yesterday’s post. May we all be humbled by this transparent testimony of how God graciously restored joy at the end of a deep valley of depression and may we ask the Lord to teach us to be more compassionate toward one another!

[As I said yesterday, when I blog through books, which is often a practice of mine, I do so by my own volition---based upon my own personal growth needs and ministry interests. In the case of this book, Christ-Centered Biblical Counseling, I am especially appreciative of my colleagues at the Biblical Counseling Coalition who are responsible for compiling this important collection of essays on theological and methodological issues in biblical counseling today.]

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May 2, 2013
by Paul Tautges
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The Mind, Body, and Medications

In my ongoing study of the subject of mental/emotional illness, counseling, and the church; I found a very helpful chapter in the recently released book, Christ-Centered Biblical Counseling. The final chapter, “The Complex Mind/Body Connection,” is written by Dr. Laura Hendrickson. As a trained medical doctor, and board-certified psychiatrist, Laura brings insight that is welcomed by, and appreciated within, the biblical counseling world.

In this chapter, Laura explores the complexity of our humanity and seeks to bring biblically-informed wisdom to bear upon the mind, body, and psychiatric medication. In this post, I will summarize and highlight her main conclusions. For the full benefit you would do well to get yourself a copy of Christ-Centered Biblical Counseling.

There Is Mystery in the Human Body, which Is Made by God. Just as Christians have many misconceptions about emotions [the subject of the preceding chapter] so “the body fares little better, perhaps worse, in our mind’s eye.” But it is important to remember that “our emotions and our bodies are God’s idea….The interrelationship between body and soul defies our capacity to fully comprehend. The complexity of the mind-body, soul-brain connection is both majestic and deeply troubling to many.” Hendrickson then refers to the Biblical Counseling Coalition’s Confessional Statement, and reflects upon the dozen drafts of the portion that addresses the mind/body connection. This section of the confession closes with the following paragraph: “We recognize the complexity of the relationship between the body and soul (Genesis 2:7). Because of this, we seek to remain sensitive to physical factors and organic issues that affect people’s lives. In our desire to help people comprehensively, we seek to apply God’s Word to people’s lives amid bodily strengths and weaknesses. We encourage a thorough assessment and sound treatment for any suspected physical problems.”

The Bible Keeps the Soul and Body Together. “Body and soul are not antithetical. Psalm 63:1 links them inseparably—the soul thirsts and the body longs. In Hebraic thinking, we do not have a body, we are a body; we are animated bodies. The flesh (basar in the Old Testament) is our whole life substance organized in corporeal form—embodied personalities. Body (basar in Hebrew and sarx in Greek) represents humanity in a certain type of relationship to God—one of finitude, contingency, neediness, weakness, frailty, and mortality….We are works of God’s hands, made, shaped, molded, clothed with skin and flesh, and knit together with bones and sinews (Job 10:3-12). We are not to despise our physicality.”

Later, when addressing the intertwined body/soul, Hendrickson writes, “We are ‘psychosomatic wholes’ with the material and immaterial aspects of our lives intricately interwoven. We are one unified being with a spiritual inner person or heart, and a physical outer person or body.”

The Heart Controls the Body…Most of the Time. “It’s important to note that because the brain is an organ of our body, it is not the responsible source of our thoughts, feelings, and choices. Scripture teaches that these activities originate in our inner person. But since the brain is the ‘master controller’ (the CEO) of our other bodily functions, it makes sense to think of it as a mediator that translates what’s inside of us into physical form.”

However, the Body Can Affect the Heart. Also, the “Bible teaches that what is going on in our body affects what goes on in our heart. If we’re sleep deprived, sick, in pain, or on medicines that make it harder for us to think clearly, these physical changes will influence our thoughts and emotions. They may even tempt us to make wrong choices.”

A Balanced Way to Think about Chemical Imbalances. “The thoughts and feelings of our heart change our brain’s chemical balance. The opposite is also true. Medicines that change our brain’s chemical balance can affect the thoughts and feelings of our heart. This view accepts the findings of medical science on the role of the brain, without insisting that our emotional pain comes solely from our body.”

Some May Be Helped by Psychiatric Medication…Some of the Time. Hendrickson begins the next major section of her chapter with this accurate assessment: “Addressing the brain/soul connection inevitably leads to the important issue of psychotropic medication. And any discussion of the use of psychiatric medicine prompts strong feelings among God’s people.”

The author then calls believers to a balanced view when she writes, “I believe we can agree that our bodies play an important role in our emotions without insisting that all painful feelings are due to a disease. I also don’t think that it’s a sin or an admission of weakness to take psychiatric drugs. But taking a medication without considering spiritual issues may leave the most important factor unaddressed. In fact, it’s been my experience, through twenty years of psychiatric and biblical counseling practice, that a medicine-only approach doesn’t resolve emotional pain completely or permanently in most cases.”

As Hendrickson puts it all together, she stresses, “It is important to realize that every emotion involves a complex interaction between body and soul. For example, the Bible teaches that improving the way our body feels can change our emotions for the better. Medical science confirms the Bible’s teachings….Remember Elijah’s story. Rest and food fortified his body, but they didn’t solve his emotional problems. He wanted to give up because he’d decided that his situation was hopeless and his ministry was a lost cause. Elijah’s hunger and tiredness didn’t do this to him, and food and rest alone couldn’t solve it. It took an encounter with God’s truth to set Elijah’s heart right….In the same way that food and rest revived Elijah, medications may improve the balance of chemicals in our brains. But by themselves they can’t solve complex spiritual problems. We need to hear God speaking truth to our hearts as Elijah did. We also need to actively use God’s Word, as Jesus did, when we are struggling.” Hendrickson then reminds her readers of Martin Luther and Charles Spurgeon, both of whom battled depression and anxiety and times of great weakness throughout their lives.

Comforted by Jesus, the Non-Cookie-Cutter Counselor. Hendrickson writes, “I’m comforted to realize that Jesus, in His time on earth, helped different people in different ways,” and then goes on to give a number of examples. Applying these examples, she writes, “So why are we surprised that the Lord doesn’t solve everyone’s painful feelings in the same ways today? We’re told that one of Martin Luther’s faith struggles was settled instantly by reading a single Bible verse. On the other hand, Luther wrote extensively about his lifelong struggle with and against spiritual depression/anxiety. Similarly, in my experience, some counselees grasp right away what God’s Word has to say about their problems and recover their emotional balance quickly. But others, not less godly or committed, may toil slowly in counseling for many months.”

“Some come to me in so deep an emotional hole that it seems best to recommend the physical boost of psychiatric drugs in addition to the ministry of God’s Word to restore them. Others come to me already on medications, having already spent many months in counseling, but still grappling with painful feelings. And finally, some people have diseases that require continued medical treatment, as well as biblical counseling, if they are to remain emotionally stable.”

“Thus, it is dangerous to assume that all emotional struggles can be changed by strictly ‘spiritual means.’ For some, spirituality includes embracing physical weakness. When we ignore the importance of the body, we misunderstand what it means to trust God. It is wrong to place extra burdens on those who suffer emotionally by suggesting that all they need to do is surrender to God to make their struggles go away. It would be equally wrong to suggest that medication is all someone needs….My confidence as I come alongside suffering counselees is this: Jesus, who healed a number of blind men five different ways, still provides what each of us needs to increase our faith and restore us.”

A Biblical Counselor’s Personal Testimony: Hendrickson’s chapter ends with a lengthy testimony from Bob Somerville, a biblical counselor and Bible college professor who endured an excruciatingly painful time of deep depression and discovered that God ministered to him through many means, including some he did not expect (you should read it in full). Hendrickson concludes her chapter with these words: “Bob’s story illustrates the message of Christ-Centered Biblical Counseling. Understanding people, diagnosing the root causes of problems, and prescribing wise ‘treatment options’ requires robust, relational, comprehensive, and compassionate care grounded in our shared redemptive relationship to Christ.”

[By the way, when I blog through books, which is often a practice of mine, I do so by my own volition, not because I have been asked by any publisher. In the case of this book, Christ-Centered Biblical Counseling, I am especially appreciative of my colleagues at the Biblical Counseling Coalition who are responsible for compiling this important collection of essays on theological and methodological issues in biblical counseling today.]

You may also be interested in Laura’s book, Will Medicine Stop the Pain? — Finding God’s Healing for Anxiety, Depression, and Other Challenging Emotions, co-authored with Elyse Fitzpatrick.

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